Thursday, December 31, 2009

6 years ago today

*preview of what is going to happen tonight at midnight! (minus the veil, wedding dress, and tux, probably in pjs ;))

Happy New Years Eve everybody!!

Six years and a couple months ago told the story of how Hubby and I first met.

I don't remember when my friend R told me Hubby and his girlfriend broke up. I don't think I made a mental note of it because I was focused on school and didn't really know him.

We were in college so there was no school from Christmas time until January. I was at my parents house for the break.

I didn't have any plans for NYE. I asked R what she was planning on doing. She was dating a local already so she was going to be in our college town. I figured going back to college town would be better than hanging out with the rents so I went up to be third wheel. I don't remember how we ended up at the party we ended up at. I think I was sober driver but don't remember whose idea it was to go there. The reason I think I was sober driver was I was super bored at this party. It was your average college house party. I think due to my boredom I started telling people to take their coats off. I get annoyed easily by things like if everyone is sitting down and one person is standing. I will ask that person to sit down cause they are bugging me. The coats inside was another one of those things. So then I had a huge pile of coats sitting next to me on the couch.

I remember Hubby and his best friend at the time showing up to the party. I asked them for their coats.

And that is the end of the story!

Aren't you sad?! Part of my heart is a little sad for this night too. Part of me thinks if he thought I was pretty the first time he met me why didn't he want to talk to me and get to know me at this party. The other part knows I should be glad he didn't try to talk to me that night because he was still wanted to be single at the time.

Sorry, am I depressing you guys on this celebratory holiday? It gets more depressing from there. Probably the whole big pile of coats next to me and being sober thing was why I didn't find a new years eve kiss that night. But (Hubby doesn't know this part) the guy that I kind of had a crush on kissed somebody else while he was sitting right next to me?!

Wednesday, December 30, 2009

Palm Ceremony

An excerpt from our wedding ceremony. I saw the palm ceremony on a wedding tv show and had to have it in my wedding. There is another version for people who aren't planning to have kids. Google it.

My fil noticed there was a lot of talk about babies. I guess the groomsmen should have brought their flasks and took shots every time babies were mentioned. Hubby is still waiting for the massages promised.

"Meagan, please hold Hubby's hands palms up, so you may see the gift that they are to you. These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and vibrant with love, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as he promises to passionately love you and cherish you through the years, for a lifetime of happiness. These are the hands that will work along side yours, as together you build your future, as you laugh and cry, as you share your innermost secrets and dreams. These are the hands you will someday place with expectant joy upon your stomach, until he too, feels his child stir within you. These are the hands that look so large and strong, yet will be so gentle as he holds your baby for the first time. These are the hands that will work long hours for you and your new family. These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears from your eyes; tears of sorrow and tears of joy. These are the hands that will comfort you in illness, and hold you when fear or grief engulfs your heart. These are the hands that will tenderly lift your chin and brush your cheek as they raise your face to look into his eyes: eyes that are filled completely with his overwhelming love and desire for you.

Hubby, please hold Meagan's hands palms up, so you may see the gift that they are to you. These are the hands of your best friend, smooth, young, and carefree, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as she promises to passionately love you and cherish you through the years, for a lifetime of happiness. These are the hands that will hold each child in tender love, soothing them through illness and hurt, supporting and encouraging them along the way, knowing when it is time to let go. These are the hands that will massage tension from your neck and back in the evening after you've both had a long hard day. These are the hands that will hold you tight as you struggle through difficult times. These are the hands that will give you support as she encourages you to chase down your dreams. Together as a team, everything you wish for can be realized.

God, bless these hands that you see before you this day. May they always be held by one another. Give them strength to hold on during the storms of stress and the dark of disillusionment. Keep them tender and gentle as they nurture each other in their wondrous love. Help these hands to continue building a relationship founded in your grace, rich in caring, and devoted in reaching for your perfection. May Hubby and Meagan see their four hands as healer, protector, shelter, and guide.

Tuesday, December 29, 2009

My Christmas Vacation part 1

*picture of Hubby and I at my cousin's house for Christmas dinner.

The Hubby and I started our vacation at 4am Saturday the 19th. We live in so cal and our parents live in nor cal. So cal has the worst traffice ever so we leave at 4 am. We avoid traffic and get there around 11 am and we somehow don't feel too tired.

We got to my parent's house and had lunch. We love getting Papa Murphys pizza. They don't have any near where we live. We finally got to watch our wedding video! I loved being able to see what the guys were up to while we were stuck in a room getting ready. Then we went to dinner at Latitudes in Auburn. It was pretty good. Best part was the mandarini! Came back to the house and played Scategories. I won by only one point!

The next day Mom, Hubby, and I headed to the mall for some last minute shopping. I thought it was going to be crazier than it was. Then we went to lunch with my old high school friends. There were 12 of us including my friends' babies. I hadn't seen one of the girls for about a year and hadn't seen her baby yet. I think seeing them was my favorite part. Then the hubby left me! He went to his parents house for a few days. My mom and I wrapped some presents and I watched tv with my dad.

The next day I drove my mom to work and met my dad at the hospital. He got the H1N1 shot because people are saying it is going to come back in January. Then he went to Target with me to return some wedding presents. He also tried to get me a H1N1 shot at CVS. They acted like they ddin't know what that was. Then Dad went back to work and I went to the grocery store. While my dad was working he found out there was an urgent clinic by Target that had the H1N1 shot. So that evening we went to pick my mom at from work and got me the H1N1 shot and went shopping for the hubby.

The next day I relaxed and hung out with my step brother (the dog my dad got to replace me).

Wednesday (aka the night before the night before), my dad worked a half day so he could drive me up to see Hubby and go to the night before the night before party. It was crazy as always. My least favorite part was when some of the men were talking about going sky diving with my dad. Before my dad got married he went a few times. My opinion is you shouldn't be jumping out of airplanes when your one and only daughter hasn't given you grandchildren yet. My dad decided around 11pm that he was going to stay the night. My mom and I wanted him to stay the night as soon as we found out he was going to the party. So we all stayed up until 2am or so. The next morning I was shocked that my dad wasn't the first one awake. My whole life he has woken up early. He can stay up to 11pm or so and be up around 5 or 6. I didn't hear a peep from him. So I decided at 9:45 I was going to wake him up. Such a nice daughter :)! He was awake by then.

To be continued on Jan 4th...

Monday, December 28, 2009

Things I learned from People's Best and Worst of 2009 Issue

Some fun facts for those of you that didn't scam people into sending you two free mags:

During the 1990 French Open Andre Agassi's hair was part wig.

Tina Fey was a virgin at 24.

Melissa Rycroft got married and got the swine flu. (side not from a different magazine- Her bridesmaids wore Alfred Angelo! Like mine!)

Tila Tequila is engaged to heiress Casey Johnson. Gonna have to google that cause I don't know who that is. But its a girl.

Teacup pigs exist! They are mini pigs that cost $4,500. Of course Paris has one. The breeder has a waiting list for them. I told Hubby I want one and he said, "Fat chance piggy." He's mean!

Justin Guarini (remember the guy that was on season 1 with the fro and made that terrible movie Justin and Kelly) got married to a girl he met in junior high. She's 27 now. He didn't marry a junior high girl.

Crazy celeb baby names-Sparrow, Sulola, Seraphina, Blakesley, Satyana. Come on people!

That is all. Hope you enjoyed!

Wednesday, December 23, 2009

Hubby's teeth

Hubby went to the dentist last week. A tooth that had a cavity filled turned gray and they did a cold test and he could not feel the cold. The tooth does not hurt though. He has to go to a specialist on the 5th of Jan. I'll keep you updated. This is a conversation we had after he got back from his appointment. It makes me giggle so I hope it will make you giggle too.

Yes my husband says OMG and knows the abbreviation for sytycd. But he's hot and not gay I swear. So I allow it.

Tuesday, December 22, 2009

Work Christmas Tree

Here is a picture of our Christmas tree at work. I took the net off and then my friend just started wrapping stuff around it. We have been teased constantly about not shaking it out first. Oh well, we love it!

I am at my parents house this week. So glad I am blogging in pjs today and not at work staring at that Christmas tree.

Tomorrow my dad and I are driving up to the Hubby's parents' house for a night before the night before party. I don't know if I have mentioned it on here before, but we are so lucky our parents get along. Our families have gone on camping trips together for a few years now. My parents have gone to Thanksgiving dinners. My parents got to meet a lot of their friends at the rehearsal dinner. So my dad was excited to get an invite to the party. My poor mommy has to work Christmas Eve and Christmas.

I might get a post in tomorrow, but I'm sure Hubby will be hogging my time and the computer when I am at his parents house. So I will see ya when I see ya frogs! Merry Christmas!!!

Friday, December 18, 2009

Hair Update

If you missed my first blog on hair, go back and read Hair Help!. One of the comments suggested I get some hot rollers. So I marched my little butt to Target after work and picked up these rollers. They are $19.99!

Here is a picture of what my hair looked like the first time I used them. I was a little bummed that I didn't get the look I was trying for. But I have been using them for the last three days and I think I like them.
The only take 2 mins to heat up. So my routine is: plug the rollers in. Wash my face. Then the rollers are ready to go. It probably takes me 10 to 15 mins to put the rollers in. Then I leave them in for 5 mins while I do my makeup and then I take them out and brush and it looks like this.
Like I said, its not quite the look I was going for. I love that it is a very quick process though. I would say my hair has more body than I was going for. But I think it is ok because I kind of feel like I have hair like this now. Which, hello?! Not a bad thing!

Thursday, December 17, 2009

6 years and a couple months ago

*pic comment- That look in his eyes is how I know no matter what happens that we will be ok.

I was going to start my 6 years ago today posts on New Years Eve, mostly because I hadn't thought about it until after the date I first met Hubby had passed. But then, my co worker asked me this question today: (note-names may have been changed to protect people's identities)

F [7:27 AM]:

Meagan [7:29 AM]:
F [7:29 AM]:
Meagan [7:30 AM]:
F [7:30 AM]:
Meagan [7:31 AM]:
F [7:32 AM]:
Meagan [7:32 AM]:

Meagan to Hubby:
Hubby [7:31 AM]:
Hubby [7:31 AM]:
Hubby [7:31 AM]:

I thought this was funny and I have been waiting for some funny work conversations to post on here. But now I have to explain the first time we met.

The story begins my freshman year of college. I was a liberal studies major. This is the major you should choose if you want to be an elementary school teacher or if you want to take easy classes. I think you all know, I was the first one, but didn't mind the second part. As a freshman you have to take some general ed classes, but there are some teachery versions of some general ed classes as well. I chose to take the teachery versions whenever I could. The first day of my teachery biology class I sat down by some girls that looked nice. We started talking about what year we were and where we lived. I found out one of the girls lived in the same "village" as me. I said, "We should be friends!" (yes I am a dork, but that is why this girl, you, and everyone else love me) *fate moment-honestly that isn't something I would normally say and didn't say to anyone else I met in my classes.

Trying to keep the story short so hang with me I hope you don't get confused. The girl I met in bio, lets call her R, and I did become friends. We had several classes together and lived really close to each other (oh Uncle Chris, if you are reading this, you know who R is). She took another teachery psych class with a girl named B and they too became friends. When we were all deciding where to live *fate moment-my friends and Rs friends coincidentally decided to live in the same apartment complex down the street.

Through the year we became friends, R would mention her friend B. We talked a lot and she told me about her roommate and some of their other friends too. She mentioned B's boyfriend and things they were up to in their classes. Our sophomore year, R had a birthday party (it was in September, that is why it is 6 years ago and a couple months).

I don't know if you all know this, but I have a terrible memory. For example: watching SYTYCD last night (fyi: why can't my favorite dancer ever be America's favorite dancer?) I didn't recognize some of the people in the top 20 or some of the dances they did and I swear I watched every episode.

So knowing the fact that I have a terrible memory, what I am about to say is weird! We went out a lot in college. Lost of people had birthday parties. We took lots of pictures. Maybe I remember a lot of the details because we took pictures that night, I don't know. But I remember what I was wearing, how I did my hair, etc. I remember walking into my friend's kitchen and being introduced to B's boyfriend, Hubby! I also remember thinking, "Wow! He's hot!". You guys know, you have seen his pictures ;). But I was no longer in the business of home wrecking so I think I took some jello shots and continued on my merry way.

Hubby remembers this night too. That is why we say it was love at first sight. He remembers meeting me and thinking I was pretty. But he doesn't remember meeting any of my roommates (that is pretty strange because they were pretty hot!). Trippy huh?!

Things at this point were not so great with B and Hubby. R and Hubby told me later that R and her roommates got in a fight that night and Hubby and B also had some words. I don't know when she started being sketchy with another guy or when they officially broke up, but it was around this time 6 years ago. Look for the next part of our story on New Years Eve!

Wednesday, December 16, 2009

Does anyone else's husband?

Does anyone else's husband- change lyrics to a song to make them inappropriate? This weekend Hubby was changing chestnuts roasting on an open fire to Scott's nuts... Scott is our bunny's nickname. Oh maybe I'll have to explain that in a blog someday. Our bunny is fixed so he stopped singing the song and apologized. Then I asked, "Where do all the nuts go?" Does anybody know where all the animal balls go? Does everything go to the dump? Ew now I am wondering where road kill goes. Saw a dog on the street the other day. So sad, and gross!

Does anyone else's husband- doubt their bra size? My best friend worked in lingerie at Nordstroms for several years and can tell you your bra size just by looking at you most of the time. I needed a new bra so I asked the hubby to get me one for Christmas. He of course went with you pick it out and I'll buy it route. I have worn the same size since my friend measured me. I have bras of different brands. It doesn't matter, the hubby still doubts it. When we went shopping this weekend I picked out my size and it fit, again in several different brands. There were a few that were a little small even. I think he is starting to believe now. Have you ever taken your husband bra shopping? Oh man! Seeing his face when I showed him some of those price tags was priceless!!

Does anyone else's husband- try to micromanage in the kitchen? He used to bug me so much about every little thing I was doing that he is now the chef. Which you met have read in a previous post that he wants me to take over more when we have kids. We are having our holiday party at work today and he made cookies for the potluck and I made au gratin potatoes. I was doing great while he wasn't home. Then he gets home and he's asking about every ingredient and am I going to put garlic. Super annoying!

Tuesday, December 15, 2009

Hair Help!

For those of you that are sad and pitiful like myself, and watch Gossip Girl, have you noticed Serena's hair has had some wave to it lately? I wasn't able to find a good picture of it.

Anyways, I noticed her usual carefree mess had a wave to it and I thought I would be able to achieve it. I have to be up early in the morning to get to work early in the morning and I like to sleep in as late as possible. So I shower at night. My hair is naturally wavy so when I go to sleep with wet hair it gets crazy and wavy. My hair dressers solution was to go with hair more like Annie on 90210. Use a curling iron on the wavy crazy in the am. I have decided it takes too long.

So yesterday I tried a straightening iron on my hair in the am to try and get the wavy messy Serena hair. It just straightened the stuff int the front and left the stuff in the back wavy.

Today I tried curling the ends under but it got ugly and is now in a pony.

I might be able to straighten it to look like this picture of Serena. Maybe I'll try and take a pic.

Any tips?

Monday, December 14, 2009

Dear Tiger

My dad bought tickets to the US Open because he wanted to see you play. I have not made a peep on this blog about your accident and all the hooplah after. I do not care how many woman you slept with. I am now concerned because you have taken a break from golf. So you have managed to piss off everyone that cared about you. You have 7 months to get your stuff together and back out on the grass or I will be sending this letter to you. My dad has been a fan of yours for probaly 10 years now. He used to have a picture of you on our TV. He loves saying your name. I understand you have a lot going on right now, but like I said you have a few months to figure it out before I start calling.


Your number 1 fan's daughter

Friday, December 11, 2009

The Newlywed Game: 2 month anniversary!!

Two months! Last month our moms emailed us happy 1 month anniversary, I emailed my mil back and said, "It feels like its been 6 years." This is because we have been together about 6 years. So its kind of a joke with all of us. It is true though!

Maybe crazy is going to be the theme of our marriage, but the first month was crazy and the second one has been too! We celebrated our first Thanksgiving together. Found out that it is an important holiday that should be spent with our families and will never be doing a friends Thanksgiving again.

We celebrated the Hubby's birthday for the first time as a married couple. I was so excited to be able to buy one of the Hubby cards! His aunt sent him/us a book called The Love Dare. It is a Christian 40 day challenge for married couples to have a better relationship. We read the dare for day 8 last night. So far things have been going good. The one thing I don't like about it is it asks you to think of negative things about your spouse. There was one day you had to pick 3 things that embarrassed or irritated you about your spouse and discuss them without defending yourself or arguing. We did that one and it was ok. We are now kind of working on not doing the things that bug each other. Day 7s dare was to make a list of positive things and negative things and hide them. We didn't do this dare. Honestly I don't want to make a list of negative things and hide it from him. I feel like if we had done it I would have tried to find his list and probably would have been hurt by it. Day 8 said to burn the list. Why have someone make it in the first place? So if you pick up this book you can know that ahead of time and choose not to do it if you want.

Get ready I am going to type the c word...


Don't know if you guys have noticed, but I have been avoiding the whole winter/holidays topic. I think everyone else is doing enough blogging about it for me. I am not Scrooge or the Grinch. Love Christmas, but I think that is about all you need to know.

Well, and this: We are going home for Christmas! We are very excited and so blessed that we are able to take a week off work to spend up North with our families. This is again a first as a married couple. In the past when we were dating we would travel up together but would spend time apart and together. I went back and forth in my head trying to decide if this should change now that we are married. While we were dating we were not a couple that spent all their time together. I would travel home without him for different reasons and we have girls or guys nights apart.

I think we have decided to spend some time apart during this trip. Personally I think it is healthy to be a couple that spends time apart. I even think once we have kids we met still spend time apart. They can pick which grandparents or which parents they want to be with. I just kind of thought it would also be cute to be one of those old couples that has never spent a day without each other.

We are doing the holidays together which is new. I am excited/nervous. We will be at his families house Christmas eve and Christmas morning. I am excited to be with him for this, since I never have. I know there will be an awesome dinner Christmas eve. I am nervous about intruding on their Christmas morning. Its the first time a new person will be there!

My question to you all is when should the Hubby and I exchange our Christmas gifts for each other? We will be up North for about a week and like I said with his family Christmas Eve and Christmas morning and with my family Christmas night for dinner.

Thursday, December 10, 2009

Bridal Dress Review

I like this picture because the skirt of my dress looks pretty.

Since I was talking about bridesmaids and dresses the other day, I thought I would review the place where I got my dress and bridesmaid dresses for my future bride frogs.

I was never one of those little girls that dreamed about her wedding. I didn't think marriage was in the cards for me until I met my hubby. Even after we had been dating for awhile I didn't know if he would ever propose. Took him 5 years! What dress I would wear or pick out for my bridesmaids was something I had not thought about.

The girl in the red satin dress was a bridesmaid. Didn't ask anyone if I could post their picture. Best pic of the dress. Most of the pictures they are holding their bouquets and you can't see the black band around the waist.

There have been other pictures on here of my dress if you want to see better pics. Anyways, on with the buying of the dresses experience:

When talk of marriage was going on my parents asked that we get married close to where they live. It is the best location for the majority of both families. I agreed but told my mom that she would need to help out a lot. I also chose my cousin that lives nearby my mom as my matron of honor so she could be there to help when needed. My mom and I emailed back and forth a lot about dresses for everyone in the bridal party. The bridesmaids that lived in the area and one that was visiting all went shopping one day and sent me pictures. WARNING TO ALL FUTURE BRIDES: the colors of bridesmaid dresses online are not the actual color. ANOTHER WARNING: Alfred Angelo never had the dress we liked in their store for my bridesmaids to try on. I didn't realize there was black tubing at the top of the dress. I ordered the wine colored straps for the dresses because they came with black and I thought it would look weird. It probably would have been fine with black. My mom and bridesmaids said they liked the color when they saw it in person. Then I saw the color in person and since everyone liked it I went with it and told three of my bridesmaids to order the dress in that color. It was a little more red than the dress we ended up with. I couldn't sleep all night because I didn't like the color. The next day I changed the color. Alfred Angelo where we ordered the dresses made me feel like a psycho for changing the color and told me they never change the color. Our opinion was that it was the day after the dresses were ordered, the dresses hadn't been made yet, don't make me feel like a bridezilla.

I always said I wouldn't get a wedding dress at Davids Bridal. Once I started looking I thought some of their dresses might be ok, so we went there first for the dress search. I swear this was not some sub conscious thing. I tried on probably 20 dresses and a few of them were ok, but none of them were the dress. All of them had something weird about them. Now I know lots of girls that have gotten perfectly fine dresses there. The girls (two because I was there for so long) that helped me were wonderful. I wish they hadn't sold my name and phone number to a bunch of companies that called me telling me I had won stuff.

The next day we went to Alfred Angelo. I probably tried on 10 dresses. This time they were all beautiful. I tried many different styles and the decision was difficult. My aunt and cousin and the women in the store liked one of the dresses but my mom cried when I tried on a different one. If you watch say yes to the dress (amazing show) you have seen girls who loved a dress but their mom didn't love it so they left with nothing. I wanted my mom to love my dress. So I put the one myself and everybody else liked on and my aunt started crying and then me and my cousin started crying and we knew it was the dress. It is the dress in all the pictures. I love my dress.

The dresses were affordable. Comment with your email if you want to know how affordable. The alterations were way over priced! I also had to pay $30 for the dress to be 3 inches longer because I am 5'10. I almost had another bridezilla moment over the alterations lady that messed stuff up. The straps I have on the dress were supposed to be removable. The bustle was supposed to be just one hook. I only paid for one hook but she put five. That was kind of lucky. Even though the bustle kept falling down every time I sat. All brides I have talked to had bustles that wouldn't stay unless they were sewn. If you decide to buy a dress at the Alfred Angleo in Roseville, CA I will give you the name of the lady that messed stuff up. She also pricked herself and got blood on my dress but she was able to get it out. The dress was pressed for free twice. It was so big it was hard to have in a closet without getting wrinkled. I wish the bodice had been smoother.

Hope all this helps!

Tuesday, December 8, 2009


This post is kind of inspired by the writers workshop prompts on Mama's Losin It Her prompts were inspired by a husband that lost his wife 27 hours after giving birth to their daughter and a woman who suffered a stroke and is now fighting to stay with her husband and family. I also follow a widow blogger at Keep Believing I am terrified that something horrible like any of these stories could happen to my husband or I. As a child growing up I was never able to imagine myself grown up and I thought that meant I would die young. I don't know if it is normal for people to second guess their happiness like I do. Does anyone else worry their story won't get a happy ending?

It is a big scary world out there. I have friends who are dealing with their children having health issues. I have always thought about what I would do if we had trouble getting pregnant or keeping a pregnancy, but I have never thought about what if the child has health problems.

I have faith in God that keeps my anxiety about all of these things lower than it could be. So far he hasn't given me anything I couldn't handle and everything that was tough made me stronger. When you look at your blessings and the pretty easy road you have taken and compare it to others' tough roads, it is hard not to wonder when the other shoe will drop.

Working on some happier posts for the rest of this week.


Here is a picture of the dress we will actually be wearing to my friend's wedding in June. Its $40 at Target and going pretty quick, but I think it could be cute for a holiday dress.

I thought I would share a funny story from when we were shopping for bridesmaid dresses for my wedding. My mother-in-law and sister-in-law were in town for brother-in-law's baseball game. So we decided to go to the bridal store where I wanted to get their dresses to try some things on and look at colors. One of my bridesmaids that lives in town met us there.

After we were done in the store my bridesmaid was talking to my mil. I walked up and heard this conversation:

Bridesmaid: "Where do you live?"

Mil: "We live in (small town in Northern California)"

Bridesmaid: "So will you be driving or flying?"

Mil: "Did we drive or fly here?"

Bridesmaid: "No, for the wedding."

My mil held it together nicely and told her that they would be driving. After we got in the car I said, "So will you be driving or flying?" We all started cracking up. Our wedding was about a two hour drive from her house. There aren't even large airports in the town if she wanted to fly. She would have to drive to Sacramento and the plane wouldn't even go anywhere casue she would be there!

The worst part of the story is my bridesmaid grew up in Nor Cal with me. We still make fun of her for this comment, behind her back, because no one has the heart to explain to her how stupid her question was.

Monday, December 7, 2009

Pics from Hubby's Bday

His card and presents.

His favorite present.

His birthday meal. Fondue! I did most of it. He cut up the shrimp because I don't know how to do it. He also cut the bread.

We had a wonderful evening celebrating his birthday. He was able to make a wish when we went out to dinner with friends to Outback this weekend. I returned two of the presents because he is very particular about his boxers!

Thursday, December 3, 2009


*Picture represents how I feel. Not an actual pic of me although I love her butterfly top.
Well, Hubby got me sick! I thought I had gotten him sick cause I was feeling a little icky the week before he got sick, but judging by the trash can sitting next to my desk, I was wrong. It is full of kleenex! Thank God I brought a box from home. People I work with are thieves!

I realized last night when I was reading the medicine box and I had all the symptoms that I was SICK! But I am here at work because I tell myself that all I do is sit around at work anyways. Plus I didn't have a fever and I feel like I have to have a fever or have someone tell me to stay home before I will call in sick. So I am here spreading my germs around for all to enjoy. At least we know no fever means no swine flu!

I am drinking A LOT of liquids! I am prone to sinus infections and I REALLY don't want to get another one. Which means going to the bathroom at ton! Don't want to have to pay to get to the doctor and pay for antibiotics and take antibiotics! My mind is also totally foggy so sorry if I commented on your blog and it made zero sense. Or if this blog isn't making sense because I have had to edit it about 7 times! I'm sure once I feel better I will go through the files here at work and wonder what crackhead put 1978 before 1329.

I will try to upload my pics from Hubby's bday and do a post about it soon.

Wednesday, December 2, 2009

The Birthday of the Man of my Dreams

I know, I know! Go ahead and swoon ladies! Go ahead and tell me how lucky I am! Don't tell me his is hot though. I feel like that has a certain undertone I don't appreciate. I am the only one that gets to call him that.

Twenty-seven years ago on this day my soul mate was born.

I am so grateful to his parents for raising him to be the man that I fell in love with. The man that asked me to be his forever.

It is the first birthday as husband and wife and I am so excited to buy him a husband birthday card! My parents got him a son-in-law birthday card! It just cemented for me how much my parents love him. Hey, I may have friend problems but you haven't seen a bad thought about in laws! We are so lucky! I was just telling my cousin that my in laws invited my parents to thanksgiving even though we wouldn't be there. Can you believe that? Anyways, back to my hunky hubby!

I met him before his 21st birthday and we started dating a few months after. So I have celebrated 6 birthdays with him so far and am so excited to celebrate the rest with him!

Today we will go out to lunch and use his free lunch coupon. After work I will be making a salad, bread, and fondue! He will open his present that you all helped me pick out. This weekend we have plans to go out to dinner with friends. Oh update, they wouldn't give up on benihanas, we wouldn't give up on outback so we are going to outback without them!

I want to share a funny story from yesterday. I had lean cuisine macaroni and cheese for lunch. Barf! Didn't finish it cause of the weird after taste. I think I am giving up my microwave meals. Anyways, so still hungry I went to get chex mix from the vending machine. It totally didn't push the bag all the way out! So I asked hubby what to do, no help. Then I went back out and stuck my arm in the thing and pulled my chex mix out. I came back and instant messaged hubby. He said, "Good job babe. Way to be resourceful." I said, "I'm scrappy". He said, "That is why I love you." Aw he is so cute!!

Baby, I hope you have an amazing 27th birthday! Love you more and more every day! xoxo, Wifey

Tuesday, December 1, 2009


I was debating what to blog about and decided the topics are kind of related to hang on while I try to do a combination blog.

The first topic up for discussion is anonymousness. Several of my frogs have had their blogs read by people they didn't want to, or became so worried about it that they changed their blog to a more protected site.

I often consider who could possibly be reading my blog while I type away. There are a few things I would do differently if it was completely anonymous. And just in general there are a few things I would change about my blog if I could have a redo. Anyways, is it something you all think about? Have you found a blog someone you knew wrote in which you were discussed?

I think it is human to be annoyed with whatever someone is saying about you, unless it is all wonderful. I am pretty sure if they hubby ever got bored enough to read this he would not approve of a few of the posts that discussed him.

With all that in mind, I need to rant about some stuff. If you read this and find I am discussing you, call me if you want to discuss it, don't automatically get pissed off. This is coming from a place of frustration, when people are frustrated they say things a little meaner than normal.

As you know, the hubby's bday is tomorrow! Feeling guilty since no bday paraphernalia at all has been purchased. Target here I come!

We have good friends (they were in our wedding and saved our butts and the bunny when we had to be evacuated because of a fire) that live in the area and one of them has a birthday on Thursday. In the past we have thrown the boys a joint surprise birthday party and done dinners together. We have been planning on doing this again this year. But we have a dilemma. Hubby wants to go to outback. Its delicious, we have a coupon, and its affordable. Friend wants to go to benihanas. We have nine people coming. The tables don't fit nine. Anyone else agree with hubby that benihanas is double the price of outback? There has been an accusation that hubby picked red lobster last year. I don't think he was the one who picked it. He may have suggested we try it cause the commercials make it seem good. The friends who have been there before were totally down. We were disgusted and will never return. This is stupid! I'm sure you are all agreeing. I am just annoyed that there has been texting back and forth between friend's wife and I and its not our bdays! I want the boys to handle it!

I also had a terrible Thanksgiving. It was held at these friends' house. I have not discussed with them why it was terrible, so don't feel right discussing it on here. Also tired of being Debbie Downer. They don't even know I had a terrible day. Ok, sunshines and rainbos tomorrow as we celebrate the birthday of the love of my life!

Monday, November 30, 2009

Crazay Monday!

The hubby is sick. :( He wasn't feeling good yesterday and was kind of useless. He has strangely been under the normal human body temp. We have this thermometer that turns green if you are a normal temp, yellow if you should stay home, and red if you should go to the hospital. His weird temp freaks it out and it doesn't know what to do! So he took some nightime sudafed stuff to help him sleep. I didn't tell him it only works for four hours hoping he would be able to sleep through the night. He didn't wake up miserable in the middle of the night so that is good. When the alarm went off I got the thermometer and brought it to him in bed. Hoping it would turn a color. Nope, cause he is a freak. Tried to take it again and he lit it up with his phone. Since he was still reptile temp I told his butt to get to work!

He must have really been not feeling good cause before I got there, an hour later, he had already left. Which means more work for me! So it has been kind of crazy! Plus having days off last week and the end of the month!

He used his sick time wisely by sleeping, chasing the bunny around the house, and creating the most random Christmas list ever! Maybe it will be tomorrows post! Oh! And his birthday is Wednesday! I need help coming up with a gift idea! What are some good wii games?

Can't remember what else I was going to tell you guys. Creepy weirdo visiting our warehouse for some reason told me I was gorgeous. That is always fun when you worry about a work stalker!

Hope you all had a great Thanksgiving! Didn't want to depress you with mine! xoxo!

Friday, November 27, 2009

Lyrical Friday

*actual wedding picture. My Dad twirling me like he has always done. Love this pic!
For this edition of Lyrical Friday I have chose the lyrics to the song I danced to with my dad at my wedding! Jessica Simpson's You Don't Have to Let Go. Tear!

I don't need your strength anymore
cause you've made me strong
You may not see the woman in me
That you dreamed of
Holding me in your arms

All the days that you gave
All the moments you've saved me,
Praying for my life
Sacrificed, just to make me who I am on my own

You don't have to let go
You don't say it
But it's in your eyes
All the fears of good-bye
But I can promise
You'll always have a place, and a way to my heart

All the days that you gave
All the moments you've saved me,
Praying for my life
Sacrificed, just to make me who I am on my own

You don't have to let go
I can live
Cause you lived for me
And I can love
Because you loved me.

All the days that you gave
All the moments you've saved me,
Praying for my life
Sacrificed, just to make me who I am on my own
You don't have to let go(Ooh ooh ooh)You don't have to let go

Wednesday, November 25, 2009

So random I don't even do my random thoughts on the same day as everyone else!

*This is a picture of the top contender for the bridesmaid dress I will have to wear in June. We haven't tried it on or found out the price, but I like it! What do you guys think?
*What do you wear on Thanksgiving when it is going to be 77 degrees?!
*My brother-in-law proposed to his wonderful, hilarious, caring girlfriend recently. I am getting a sister! Kind of glad they are just enjoying being engaged for now and the wedding might not be for a year or so. I feel like these weddings are happening non-stop!

*Work with the Hubby is going great! I am sure there are a lot of people out there that wouldn't want to work with the person you live with, but some how we are making it work! It hasn't really been hard at all.

*Found out today I get Friday off too! Poor Hubby has to come in though!

*Excited for Thanksgiving with friends and football and I am grateful for everything in my life!!!
*I realized today that I stold the frog (blog friends) thing from Jen at Jen's Voice. They are both funny and I am blonde!
*It is on on my frogs' birthday tomorrow! Yes Thanksgiving! She is roll on the floor funny! Check her out and let her know where you heard about her!

Tuesday, November 24, 2009


*Oprah, I know this is kind of a crazy pic of you, but please be glad I didn't do the no make up picture. Its too scary and people wouldn't even know what the heck this post was about.

Well frogs (again I stole it from Stacie at Stacie's Madness -I would link if I knew what the crap mr. linky was or how to use it), I haven't seen very much upset over Oprah's announcement, but I am super bummed about it! If you aren't, or don't care, read yesterdays post, I specifically asked for advice people and received none!

Oprah is leaving me! She is like a second mother to me. I was a latch key kid growing up and Oprah and Days of our Lives kept me company while I "did my homework". My life will be a little more empty without her. Who will tell me about diets I won't do? Who will tell me about stuff I can't afford? About books I won't read? Shows I won't watch? Who will tell me weird stories that disturb me life? Who will tell me I shouldn't let the hubby look down there when the baby is coming out cause it will mess him up forever? Who will introduce me to people like Phil and Oz? Who will tell my daughter these things?

I know there are rumors that she is just moving to her own network. When she made her announcement, she did not mention it. She sounded like she was done. So I am going to cherish every crazy last moment with her. Because lets get real people, my cable probably won't have this new channel she is creating and I am not going to pay for that.

Friday, November 20, 2009

Are you my mommy?

I am reading the first book in the Thomas Kinkade series, Cape Light. It is due back at the library Saturday so I wanted to get a lot read last night. We went to the gym but I just rode the bike and read. Then while Hubby was cooking dinner I read.

It was taco night last night and I always help with the rice. He has been asking me to help with dinner almost every day this week. One of the days I got him to help with dishes too, since I helped with dinner. Last night I helped with the rice and he didn’t even have to ask. Around 8:30 he asked me to if I was going to do the dishes or something else, and I told him I would in a few more pages. He got frustrated and started cleaning the kitchen up. I was frustrated that he was frustrated. I got to the place in my book where I wanted to stop and finished up the kitchen. After a little while of not talking, I apologized for reading. It was kind of a half apology. I don’t think reading is something I should apologize for. I don’t know why he doesn’t understand reading. His mother reads but I don’t know if she did as much when they were growing up, or even when she finds time to do it.

She is a great mom. She is an amazing cook. She even made their baby food. They never went to fast food restaurants. She keeps the house really clean. Does laundry all the time. She sets a high standard for me. I hope to be like her.

Anyways, he apologized for being frustrated and said he feels like he is the house wife. He also said that when we have kids I will have to do the cooking. He doesn’t want the kids to think of him as a motherly figure! I told him I don’t think he needs to worry about that. Plus it is 2009! The reason he took over cooking was he was driving me crazy nit picking everything I did while I was cooking. I told him if he was going to hover and criticize, then he could do it. We also had to divvy up labor since I was cooking and doing dishes.

We talked about it and I don’t have a problem doing some of the cooking that I can do. Of course he would have to be watching the children so he wouldn’t be able to hover. But as I lay in the bed thinking about what makes a person a father figure or a mother figure I thought: he will be a father figure because he will teach them all about sports and play catch with them. I will take them shopping and teach them how to dress and do girly stuff if we have a girl.

What do you think defines the father or mother roles?

Thursday, November 19, 2009

Thanksgiving to be remembered

I was so excited Mama Kat had a writers workshop today cause I needed some inspiration! Here it is:

A Thanksgiving to be remembered...
Last year was a Thanksgiving to be remembered! I was a substitute teacher at the time so I got the week off and was able to go home to be with my family. My parents and I, my two cousins and their husbands all gathered at my aunt and uncle’s house.

One of my cousins was pregnant! We were all so excited. We looked at pictures of the sonogram. Talked about what his name was going to be. Took pictures with her and the belly. Felt him kick.

Then, as tradition states we must do, we went around the table saying what we were thankful for. I can’t remember if anyone went before me but I started us down the memorable part. I said, “I am thankful for Conner”. I was being serious! I was so excited for him to arrive! A couple people said some stuff I don’t remember now. Then my cousin that was pregnant said, “I am thankful for my husband’s sperm”. I think she was trying to go along the same line as me and was kind of being silly. But she usually says stuff like this. I’ve got another one coming in a little bit. Now I have to give you a little back story. One of my cousins’ husbands works for my uncle. I think after my cousin said she was thankful for her husband’s sperm he might have said something about his sperm too. We were all having a great laugh. Then, it was my uncle’s turn. He started to say, “I am thankful for my son-in-law…” I started dying laughing because I thought he was going to say sperm! But he was going to say something about his son-in-law that works for him!

Anyways, my family is so funny. We always have pee in your pants funny moments when we are together. Seriously, we have them written in some scrapbooks.

Oh wait, you wanted to hear the other funny comment! Now this was a comment my cousin made earlier when she found out she was having a boy. But the story was told again that Thanksgiving night. She was thinking about how strange it was to be having a boy and she said, “I have a penis inside me!” Of course my hilarious aunt said, “Well isn’t that how you got in this situation in the first place?”
Did you like my story? Sorry if my Thanksgiving story didn’t quite warm your heart. It warms mine!

Wednesday, November 18, 2009

Picture Obesession!

Hello! I feel like I have been super absent from blogging lately. I told myself blogging at work wasn't being a "great" receptionist. Thanks Suze Orman on Oprah for making me try to be great at something! Anyways, I told myself I would blog at home, don't want to leave you all without me! Blogging at home didn't happen! We moved, everything is still not ready for the apartment warming party on Sunday. We got our professional pictures from the wedding! I am obsessed with all 594 of them! I put them on my computer at work and just watch as they all flicker by. Anyways, my mom wants me to make her a scrapbook with pics from the wedding. We ordered christmas cards last night. People get them at Walmart! I haven't seen them yet but they were cheap!! Then I will have to pick out pictures for my album and scrapbook. Phew! So yeah, haven't had blogging on the brain. That is all I have got time for! Miss ya!

Monday, November 16, 2009

Feeling Random Today

I spend way too much money in the vending machine at work. 25 cents for a handful of skittles and the money goes to kids with cancer? Tottally worth it!

Why isn't there a cents symbol on my keyboard?

I broke my no alcohol and caffeine thing after about a week. Moving was horrible! (aha blog idea!) I was stressed and couldn't do anything because there were no boxes. My friend that was there with me decided it was close enough to 11am (reasonable time, right?) for a beer. I had to agree. After that first beer, moving was a lot more fun! Lunch was a delicious margarita! But preggo S and nosey B weren't around.

Went to a follow up appointment with eye doctor. A week early, on accident, because I am blonde. Everyone keeps asking me if I take my contacts out at night. After a girl I knew slept with hers in one night and ripped part of her eyes off, um heck yes! I guess its ok now cause the contacts are high tech, aka totally slippery and fall off my finger. After 12 years of taking them out at night there is no reason to leave them in. I like taking them out, it is more comfortable. Leaving them in is GROSS!

I know I started that blog about getting weird calls at work, you guys just let me know if you get sick of me telling you about work, but when I tell you someone is not available, and ask would you like to leave them a voicemail or can someone else help you, "I am returning his call". Is not a response! The other day someone said choice A. Kinda funny and I say the options so often I knew what he meant, so I put him on hold. And don't interupt me when I am giving you choices! Just pisses the recptionist off! When I temped for a couple days as a telemarketer they taught you how to get past the "gate keeper". That was what they called the receptionist. In our office phone calls are essential so I don't deny very many people. But when I can tell you are a telemarketer, I love to play the "gate keeper".

I grabbed underwear from the bottom of my drawer today and did not realize until I got to work that there was no elastic! I don't know what happened! Did the elastic disentegrate in my drawer? They are going in the trash the minute I get home! I have total droopy drawers!

Friday, November 13, 2009

Lyrical Friday

Lyrics from my latest favorite by Luke Bryan, Do I:

Baby, what are we becoming

It feels just like we’re always running

Rolling through the motions everyday

I can lean in to hold you, or act like I don’t even know you

Seems like you could care less either way

What happened to that girl I used to know

I just want us back to the way we were before

Do I turn you on at all when I kiss you baby

Does the sight of me wanting you drive you crazy

Do I have your love, am I still enough

Tell me don’t I, or tell me do I baby

Give you everything that you ever wanted

Would you rather just turn away and leave me lonely

Do I just need to give up and get on with my life

Baby, do I

Remember when we didn’t have nothing

But a perfect simple kind of loving

Baby those sure were the days

There was a time our love ran wild and free

But now I’m second guessing everything thing I see

Do I turn you on at all when I kiss you baby

Does the sight of me wanting you drive you crazy

Do I have your love, am I still enough

Tell me don’t I, or tell me do I baby

Give you everything that you ever wanted

Would you rather just turn away and leave me lonely

Do I just need to give up and get on with my life

Baby, do I

Still give you what you need

Still take your breath away

Or light up the spark way down deep, baby do I

Do I turn you on at all when I kiss you baby

Does the sight of me wanting you drive you crazy

Do I have your love, am I still enough

Tell me don’t I, or tell me do I baby

Give you everything that you ever wanted

Would you rather just turn away and leave me lonely

Do I just need to give up and get on with my life

Tell me baby do I get one more try

Do I, baby do I

Love this song but I will make sure my Husband never needs to ask these questions.

Monday, November 9, 2009

The Newlywed Game: 1 month anniversary!

I can't believe Sunday was our 1 month (technically 4 week) anniversary! My moms (mom and mother-in-law) both emailed us happy 1 week anniversary, a week after we got married.

I was thinking things have been pretty crazy this first month of marriage.

The first week was our honeymoon. First time on vacation with only each other for a week. Probably should have tried that out before we got married. But I knew from our many years of dating we would have an amazing time. Which we did!

In the months before the wedding, there were a lot of little things that were costing us money. The trip to vegas for bachelor/bachelorette party, mani/pedi, getting hair cuts, etc. I also took a week and a half off without pay for the wedding prep and honeymoon. So, I was looking forward to coming back to the tiny apartment, working regularly, and getting our finances in order.

Then, we spent some of the wedding money on the new man toy. And we got the opportunity to move to a bigger apartment! Good bye money! It costs $100 to transfer cable?! $30 to transfer gas and electric?! Then our place didn't come with a washer or dryer and the laundry facilities are a hike away. So, out to sears we went! Love all the new stuff but jeez! I don't know what Suze would say!

Hubby was excited that he got an extra $80 on his pay check since his status changed to married. Gotta start saving that to pay off the washer and dryer! Just kidding kids, we have the money! Remember don't buy stuff you don't already have the money for!

But that is about all that has changed. Our wedding day was amazing, we had so much fun, but it was a weird experience. The reason I was bugging him for 3 years to marry me was I wanted to stand up in front of our family and friends and speak those sacred vows. The night before the wedding at the rehearsal dinner at my parents' house, he was celebrating with his friends and family and they figured since the wedding wasn't until 4:30 pm they could party all night long. I was not excited about this plan. He was staying at a hotel with his parents and a bunch of the guys decided to crash there too. So a lot of what I was thinking about at the alter is "Is he hung over? Drunk? Is he going to pass out?" I was really worried he was going to pass out. I think we both did a good job saying our vows. That was what was important to me. But afterwards, I didn't feel any different. I think it is because those vows aren't going to be too difficult for me to keep. I really want to watch the video from our ceremony and get the professional pictures!!!

Friday, November 6, 2009

Lyrical Friday

Here are the lyrics from one of my favorite Garth Brooks songs of all time, Unanswered Prayers:

Just the other night at a hometown football game

My wife and I ran into my old high school flame

And as I introduced them the past came back to me

And I couldn't help but think of the way things used to be

She was the one that I'd wanted for all times

And each night I'd spend prayin' that God would make her mine

And if he'd only grant me this wish I wished back then

I'd never ask for anything again

Sometimes I thank God for unanswered prayers

Remember when you're talkin' to the man upstairs

That just because he doesn't answer doesn't mean he don't care

Some of God's greatest gifts are unanswered prayers

She wasn't quite the angel that I remembered in my dreams

And I could tell that time had changed me

In her eyes too it seemed

We tried to talk about the old days

There wasn't much we could recall

I guess the Lord knows what he's doin' after all

And as she walked away and I looked at my wife

And then and there I thanked the good Lord

For the gifts in my life

Sometimes I thank God for unanswered prayers

Remember when you're talkin' to the man upstairs

That just because he may not answer doesn't mean he don't care

Some of God's greatest gifts are unanswered prayers

Some of God's greatest gifts are all too often unanswered...

Some of God's greatest gifts are unanswered prayers

My husband and I can definitely relate to the old high school flame thing. Both of us are glad those prayers weren't answered and we found each other. What unsanswered prayers are you thankful for?

Wednesday, November 4, 2009

An experience I would like to forget!

I follow Mama Kat over at She does writers workshop posts and this is my first attempt!

I am choosing to write about an experience that I would like to shake from my memory.

I knew when we got married that the "when are you having kids" thing would start. It started when we got engaged. I had no idea how intense it was going to be!

I think the decision to have a child should be between you and your husband. I don't want all my family and friends to know whether or not we are "trying". I also am not going to tell people if I am pregnant until I am in my second trimester. This was a choice my cousin made and I thought it was a good one. I don't want to announce on facebook that I am pregnant and then if god forbid something happens have to announce that on facebook too. I also don't want to say that we are going to wait a year or two and then something might happen and have everyone know my child is an accident! I have tried explaining this to my amazing friends, S and B. Remember S recently found out she is pregnant and announced it on facebook.

The memory I would like to shake and keep from happening again happened this weekend. Because I am feeling this overwhelming pressure from everyone about having children, I was considering giving up alcohol and caffeine. I thought this would stop people from obsessing. When I found out S was pregnant I told her I was going to give up alcohol and caffeine in support of her. I have been pretty good, had a few sips of coke with lunch at the mall because I couldn't resist. But she had green tea, she didn't know it had caffeine! Anyways, when we all went out to a bar for Halloween I reminded the crew that I will not be drinking. They freaked out! "You are pregnant! Or you think you are!" Um no, looked to my husband for support. He told them no she is not. The peer pressure continued. I was so glad I didn't cave in like usual. It made the night a little less fun, I will admit. But looking back, if I had chose to drink and have fun, there probably would have been no one to support Stacy. The kareoke was really loud and she was not feeling good and tired. The girls were sober and bored and over the loud, bad singing, so since we couldn't stand outside (second hand smoke) we went and sat in the car. If I had been drinking I wouldn't have wanted to leave and I would have been loud and obnoxious like the boys when this poor pregnant sober lady was driving us home. I also probably would have been hungover the next day. Woke up so happy with my decision.

The moment I want to shake from memory is when B continued with her are you pregnant or trying to get pregnant questions. She literally asked me if I was on birth control! Is that any of your business? No!

Any advice for how to get this to stop? Ugh! Shaking this from memory now!

Weekend Recap Wednesday

Friday- the usual relax and catch up on old tv shows.

Saturday- Woke up in the mood for Christmas! Watched Elf and drank hot chocolate! I had finished Nora Roberts' Tribute and wanted to get to the library. It closes at 2:30 on Saturday and isn't open on Sunday. Then I remembered I needed to call the bank and order checks with my new name. Found out that you have to go in to have that done. Thanks "guy that changed my name" for not thinking of it when I was there! So we complied a list of errands to run, got ready for the day and we were off.

First stop was the apartment office to pay rent. We have the best apartment staff so we chatted for awhile. Then I asked if there were bigger places up in our little twenty apartment gated complex. She said, no, but we have some really good deals on one bedrooms done here. Let me know when you are ready. In our complex you can transfer before your lease is up. We told her to call us and let us know what she has available.

We then went to the bank. There were several people waiting to meet with the people who sit at desks. We signed in and sat down. There was the lady that is always working that accidentally closed my checking account one time, she's not our favorite, and some other lady. The lady that is not our favorite had a lady at her desk that paid the wrong mortage. We had wamu which is now chase. Not our favorite lady already had issues, obviously, she closed my checking account! So she has no clue how to use the new computer system. The other lady told the people sitting at her desk she would be right back. We never saw her again. So when the lady who paid the wrong mortgage almost had a melt down because she is going to Australia for a bad reason and then left, not our favorite lady went to the list and called me! I was surprised because there was a guy that was there before us but oh well. To the desk! Not our favorite lady didn't know how to change someone's name and couldn't figure out which name was my maiden name and which was my married name. She's special! So she had to call someone over. We will see if the checks ever come and what the heck they say.

I told my fellow book club member, my mom, that I was done with Tribute and none of my books on hold were ready to be picked up. She suggested I start with the Thomas Kinkade books. So I picked up Cape Light. Just getting into it, its ok. Tribute was pretty good, fyi.

Then we went to the mall. Had to return earrings I bought for the wedding that I didn't end up wearing. The earrings were a dilema right up until a couple days before the wedding when my mom and I were at the mall getting my rings cleaned and decided to stop in Claires. The earrings to my necklace were there and it was so perfect! I was so excited! Anyways, so returned the other ones I bought. We also went to crate and barrel to spend gift cards on stuff we didn't get that we registered for, love crate and barrel! While we were at the mall we got a call from the lady that works in the apartment office. She told us she had a couple apartments available and we should stop by so she could show them to us.

We stopped by target to do the spend gift cards on stuff we didn't get thing. Also love target!

Then we went to the apartment office again. She let us into the model of a 750 sq ft apartment. Let me remind you we currently live in a 600 sq ft apartment and with all the wedding presents and the new stuff, we are too crowded and on top of each other! We liked the 750 sq ft place, the kitchen and closet were really big. I couldn't figure out what we would do with the couches and tv in that place though. There weren't enough walls. Then she took us over to an upstairs 800 sq ft that a lady had just transfered out of. The moment I walked in I said, "I like this place better!" Right when you walk in, there is a huge living room and dining room with the patio attached. The kitchen is a little more closed off than our current place, but that just means more cabinets! It still will be ok for entertaining. It is farther away from the road than our current place. We have sirens driving by frequently that make talking on the phone or watching tv difficult. There is a view of the hill we currently live on, we aren't looking into anyones windows. If you walk around to the other side of the building there is a pool, spa, bbq, fitness room, and fireplace. When we found out it would only be $50 more a month we said sign us up!

Sunday: Football. Got the call that we could move in next Saturday. Went down to the office again and signed the paperwork!! We are so excited to have a bigger place finally!

Tuesday, November 3, 2009

Wedding Advice

Sorry I was mia yesterday. They have got me working like crazy over here. We also have some big news going on at home. More on that tomorrow. Here is a blog I wrote with some advice. Take it or leave it.

The first mistake we made was inviting too many people. We believed those wedding websites that say 30% of the people you invite will RSVP no. Our wedding was on a Sunday too! I figured during the school year people wouldn’t be able to come to a wedding Sunday evening. I think 1% of the people RSVPed no.

The other problem with our guest list was not sticking to a strict number. If you are having your reception indoors find out what the maximum capacity is before sending out invitations. We also had a parent, not going to say who, that kept adding and adding to the list. I suggest telling your parents and the future-in-laws a specific number of people they are allowed to invite and don’t let them add.

We had people come to the wedding that weren’t in the original rsvp. But we also had people who rsvped yes cancel all the way up to the day of the wedding. So it all worked out in the end.

Get a layout of how the room will be set up before time if you are doing assigned seating. I did not do this and the day of the wedding my aunt was labeling tables and we realized where the groom sat and where the bride sat were opposite of the families. She switched the tables right by us to match, but everyone else was on opposite sides. I don’t know if they noticed, everything seemed to go fine.

I put a lot of thought and time into the seating arrangements. I was so thrilled to hear that our group of people that are our friends from so cal loved their table. They even want to hang out with the new friends they made! The only awkward thing was my step uncle’s step daughter. Did you follow that one? My grandfather remarried about 25 years ago and his wife has a son. My step uncle. He married a woman that has a daughter. His step daughter. Our tables had 10 seats. There was a table with my parents, my aunt and uncle, my two cousin-in-laws, my grandparents, and the step uncle and his wife. There was no room for his step daughter. I think she is a freshman in high school. I put her at a table with my very sweet cousin and her husband, my cousin that I thought she knew, and some other young, nice people. Apparently she was not ok with this. I walk into my wedding and am looking around the tables and I see some older woman sitting at amongst these younger adults. I was like who is that? I realized as the night went on and my step uncle went and sat at the table for awhile, that she was making her mom and step dad sit there. What is more awkward? You politely sitting until everyone gets up and dances and then you can go sit by your mommy or having your step dad sit with people he has nothing in common with? I think she needs to grow up! So annoyed by that!

This was all the advice I could think of at the time. Please add more for the readers or ask me questions if you have any.

Wednesday, October 28, 2009

Financial Friday

Now I am no financial genius. My dad handled all my finances until I moved to So Cal. When I moved in with Hubby, I finally got my own bank account, because they didn't have my bank down here. When I was in college, I lived the good life. Mani/pedis, tons of new clothes, going out to eat all the time. Now that I have my own bank account, all that as stopped. I am the spender in the relationship though and he is the saver. I think its probably because he makes more than I do. I have learned a lot living with Cheapo (Hubby) and was able to support myself (seriously, no money from Hubby or Dad) through three month of unemployment. My husband and I are completely debt free. How many other college educated people in their mid twenties can say that? We were really lucky we didn't have to take out student loans and have gotten help along the way. I am so grateful because it is a very secure feeling.

I think people have figured out how to save money and not get into credit card debt. But there still seems to be a lot of people making mistakes with their money. My poor friend became a victim to a "financial reality check" courtesy of me recently.

Here are some of the things I wanted her to realize and hope you learn something from too. If you all don't need help in this area let me know and we can come up with something else to discuss on Fridays. Hopefully, its a good reminder before we go blow all our cash partying this weekend!

This friend was telling me that they were going to buy a house. I personally don't like to discuss how much money my husband and I make or how much money we have saved from what we have made, but this friend has told me how much money they make. I have used this calculator before to find out how much of a house we could afford, just out of curiosity I learned from using this calculator that we could afford more of a house if Hubby paid his car off (which he has since done). I also learned that we could not afford a house in the crazy expensive city we live in. I knew that my friend would not be able to afford a house either.

They have a car that is not payed off. They have student loans. A little credit card debt. This is one people need to consider more, a car that is 10 years old or has 100,000 miles on it. That car is going to need to be replaced soon. Will you still be able to afford your mortage payments and a new car payment? These friends were also not preparing for the worst. I just started following a blog of a lady that experienced the worst. She lost her husband to cancer. When I told my friend that she can't buy a house just because her husband makes good money because something could happen to him. She said, "You can't think like that". Well, you might end up with a big financial problem if you don't.

I know that there are deals out there right now, but that doesn't mean everyone should buy a house. This friend actually went to the bank to get a loan and was told what I had already told her, that they can't afford a house. Now don't go do the calculator, find out you can't afford a house, and stop saving! Save up an emergency fund, save for a house, save for that car you might have to buy, pay off your debt!

I am going to be an "auntie" again!!

Remember lovely readers I am an only child. I have to adopt my friends' and cousins' babies as neices and nephews.

One of my bridesmaids is pregnant! So I am very excited to be an "auntie" again and ooh and aah and give kisses. And buy baby clothes! My favorite!

We are super close, so we have discussed, in detail, the whole process. A few of our friends are into the Chinese birth chart. You can check it out here: For those of you that have kids see if it is correct and let me know. When we were looking at the birth chart for S before she got pregnant it said she was going to have a boy if she got pregnant with in the next 6 months or so. In her imaginary planned life which is probably about as acurate as the chinese birth chart, she is having a girl. So in September at her birthday I bet her $20 its a boy. I'll let you know in 9 months who wins. Actually they might be finding out when they can. Sonograms are so good now you can see the thing anyways!

She goes to the doctor in 7 weeks and then we will get the official due date. We are hoping by some weird freak of nature she will be able to attend our friend's wedding June 18th. The internet said her due date would be July 3rd and the wedding is an 8 hour drive away. So its not looking good. I don't think she reads my blog. But if she did, she would probably mad that I am about to say this. I don't think her husband and she will be going to his brother's wedding in July either. We live in Cali, they live in New York. With an infant? Not happening! I'll keep you guys updated! Have a lovely Thursday!

Tuesday, October 27, 2009


This story has to be told for you to get to know me better. Sorry things have been a little dark lately, lightening the mood tomorrow, I promise.

I could probably blame Saved by the Bell the colleges years for about 51% of my motivation to go to away to a four year school. It is 75% to blame for the off campus housing option I chose. I wanted to have the same set up as them. Two rooms with a middle common area. 20% was my picky eating habits that made eating at a cafeteria frightening. 5% was I did not want to live in a tiny room.

I was assigned to live in University Village. Like I said it was off campus, but still owned by the University. If I hadn't been assigned to live there I never would have met the hubby. Some other bad things may have never happened either. It was basically a studio apartment. We had a big living space for beds, and desks and a tiny kitchen and bathroom. I was assigned a roommate. We lived upstairs. At the top of the flight of stairs were 4 rooms. 1 was ours. The others belonged to Lorne and Chin (the only boys), Michelle and Corinne, and Katherine and Emma. We all became fast friends. We spent all our time together and I thought I was the luckiest girl in the world.

When firguring out where to live for the next year, we all wanted to live together, with a few additions. Lorne's girlfriend and Michelle's friend. We rented two townhouses down the street from University Village. I lived in the townhouse with three other girls. As I now know, and have heard from many friends, this is usually a recipe for distaster. Some of the girls were loud, some were light sleepers.

In January of the first year, I started dating Hubby. I think I got so involved in the new relationship that I was being distanced from my roomies. That summer, some rearranging was done and I moved to the one bedroom downstairs. This further distanced me. I can't remember when but a couple of them decided to put locks on the doors when they weren't there. We maintained until the winter.

Since I was dating Hubby, and he was a local, I did not move home for school breaks. All my roommates did. Every year at Christmas I put up a tiny fake tree and put my presents underneath. I think it was a few days before Christmas, Hubby and I went to a family friends for a party. When we got home I was doing something in the kitchen and Hubby went into my room. He yelled from my room something about moving the computer. I walked into my room and my laptop computer was gone. I don't remember the order of things after that. I know at some point I called my parents and the police. Realized that the presents had been taken from under the tree which about brought me to my knees. My roommates doors that had the locks had been kicked in. One had left a laptop that was stolen.

We had a back slider that had a stick in it for safety. The police assumed the person had been able to knock the stick out. We had maintenance come the next day to change our front door lock just to be safe. We put locks on all the doors to protect us if someone came in while we were there. We got a new stick for the slider and put an alarm on it.

I drove home to be with my family on Christmas. I couldn't make it. I was in tears. My parents met me half way and my dad drove my car and my mom drove me. I was in school and needed a computer. After the holidays, we packed up my dad's desktop in a black trash bag. We assumed no one would take a desktop and just wanted to make sure no one saw me take the computer in. I don't know how soon after, but when I was out again for awhile and came home they took my desktop. Police were called again. This time there was no forced entry. The locks had been changed. The burglar was watching our place and had a master key.

My poor dad felt so helpless. It was a very quick and easy decision to move asap. Some of my roommates didn't want to move! Can you believe that? We discussed all moving together but they didn't seem too excited to live with me again. I got a place of my own. I saw a few of them again after that. We have all pretty much lost touch.

I have gotten better, but am pretty paranoid still. I didn't put the presents under the tree the next year. I have been able to recently. When I come home every day I notice if things are different than they were left. I can't really watch scary movies any more.

We later came to find out that 20 other townhouses in our complex were broken into over that winter break. Great job Chico PD. They never found out who did it. We will always suspsect the managers of the complex. I know none of you would ever do such a horrible thing. I wonder if the people realize how much it changes the lives of the people and families they rob. The only humor in the story was that I was going to give someone the book "The Five People You Meet in Heaven". We hope the robber read it.