Sunday, October 24, 2010

Is your blog fake?

I can’t remember which blog I follow had a post mentioning this post this week. Let me know if it was you, so I can give you credit. It came up in one of my many conversations with Neely this week. She did a post about it too. So let’s go there. Is your blog fake?

When I read the post, my immediate reaction was, oh my gosh, this is so true! But then I thought about it and it isn’t true. When I started this blog I didn’t know where it was going to go. I started reading other blogs and making connections with people. I found other newlyweds that posted all 200 of their wedding photos. So I plastered my face all over this blog. I think to me it was like facebook with strangers. I mean, I had a beautiful wedding and obviously the more people that see the pics and tell me I’m pretty, the better I feel ;).

But I have to be careful. I think in my first post I don’t say my maiden last name. My Dad has always been careful when it comes to what you put out there on the internet. I try not to put on facebook when we will be away from our apartment. I have been burglarized enough thank you. I don’t do the home tour posts because I don’t want people to know if we have nice things. Probably shouldn’t have posted about what brand my engagement ring is.

My point is, now that I have put my face on this blog, I can’t be 100% honest. I don’t know who is reading this blog. So I don’t post things I wouldn’t want my employer to read. I don’t post things I wouldn’t want my family to read. I don’t post things I wouldn’t want a potential psycho stalker to read.

You want me to post pictures of my apartment messy? Well I usually don’t let my friends and family see it that way. You want me to post pictures where I think I have a double chin or a gummy smile, where I have zits or look fat. Its probably only fair since Hubby says my anniversary post was a montage of bad pics of him. You want me to post when I’m in a bad mood or had a fight with my husband? Personally, I don’t think people want to read about that stuff. I don’t want to be a Debbie downer.

Isn’t it kind of human nature to be fake? Like I said, I don’t let my friends and family see my messy apartment. I put makeup on and I buy nice, flattering clothes. I think there is an argument to be made for women to be honest with each other. If we all stop pretending we have got it together and be honest, maybe society’s expectations will lower. I loved a couple posts I read from some mom’s of newborns that were completely honest about how their babies cry a lot and they are tired. I guess the idea is let’s stop pretending we have perfect angel babies.

But I have to give you all credit. I think you keep it real. I think for the most part the blogs I read are not fake. A lot of you have been through tough times and shared it with us. I’ve shown you a before picture of my closet. Would you like me to tell you its kind of gotten back to that? We talk about our bad habits. I show you pics of the adorable bunny but I also let you know he poops a lot.

Most of us are adults. I think we have all figured out by now that no one is perfect. But the best part about the blog community is you can share your struggles and there are people there to support you.


  1. Love this article! Its a good reminder to always keep things real, thanks for posting!

  2. This is all so true. Noone is perfect but we make it look just that. I can't say I don't scan my pictures for the best ones but like you said, who doesn't?

  3. My blog is about as real as it gets.

    Possibly too real in some people's opinions.

  4. Ha! Someday my employee is going to read my blog and my ass will be totally fired. Living on the edge baby. Can't worry about the family. You know as well as I do that I could never please all of them at the same time anyways.

  5. very interesting!
    I dont post my last name or the town I live in...or a photo of my house from the outside...but that is all about safety-not being fake. I think one can still be real without sharing those kind of things. I also dont write about my job AT ALL...which may say more about who I am, but I try to show who I am without that :) It is a fine line. I do notice I put pictures on my blog of myself that I would NEVER put on FB!! People on FB know me and might judge me...for some reason I dont care if strangers judge me...very weierd reasoning :)

  6. I don't know, i think everyone wants to project a better portrait of themselves than reality. my friends get to see me smoking cigarettes for example i dont really put pics of me smoking on my blog. or not 'good' pics - but IRL people get to see all that... i think it's an interesting point..